It's 2024, and we live in an era of endless swiping. It’s like an Olympic sport of the thumb and then finally! someone with potential!
Now that you have conquered the odds and landed a date,. Naturally, you meet at the best possible location to foster intimacy and connection: a noisy bar. Nothing says “I’m deeply interested in getting to know you,” like yelling your life story over the sound of "Greedy" blasting in the background...
Trying to connect in a crowded restaurant or bar can be your biggest dating mistake. Trying to get a comment across to your date is now 10x harder, as you need to scream over the hundreds of conversations and the loud music blaring throughout the bar. You lack the intimate aspect of your first date by doing this.
According to our experts, expecting to feel fireworks in a setting that’s about as conducive to romance as a football stadium is painfully unreasonable. Yet, this is what we have come to expect from modern dating. Environments like noisy bars can increase cognitive load, meaning your brain is too busy processing the noise and distraction to focus on emotional connection.
It's important to remember that even if you do feel butterflies, those feelings could be anxiety or overstimulation rather than romantic chemistry.