Sliding into someone's DMs is becoming more and more common to try to connect or "shoot your shot."
Online dating expert Julie Spira told Elite Daily, quote, “Sliding into DMs actually is a part of many people’s dating strategy, and there is a definite fine art to it." The key is to keep things casual, play it cool, and don't be too forward.
Alessandra Conti, a personal matchmaker, said that sliding into people's DMs can be a good way to meet new people!
Here are some tips to slide into your crushes DMs successfully.
Don't Be Too Forward Or Sexual. Focusing on someone's appearance makes it seem like that's all your interested in and are looking for a hook up. Typically that's a major turn off. If you're too forward or sexual you're at risk of being blocked.
Find Something You Both Connect With. This includes bringing up a mutual friend or asking about a something they recently attended did (concert, trip, etc.) This will help start a conversation with your crush.
Establish a Rapport. Julie Spira says that you should start by liking & commenting on your crushes posts publicly first. It's key to setting up a positive DM sliding experience.
Start with Small, Quick Hits. Keep your first message short & sweet. No one wants to read a novel.
Know What You're Getting Into. Look at their profile and make sure they aren't dating someone. You can also see how they interact with people and find out if it's worth your time.
Move Things Offline When Possible. Once you've successfully slid into their DMs it's time to take things out of the DMs and into real life. See if the connection is there. And the experts say you should meet sooner rather than later.
Ask A Friend For Help Connecting You. One of the best ways to connect with someone is through a friend. Whether you bring up a mutual friend or have the friend make the connection for you.
Move On When It Doesn't Work. You don't want to be the person that can't take a hint. If they don't respond or don't show interest it's time to move on.