If you’re considering getting back with an ex, there are only four reasons to consider doing so.
According to InStyle, the four reasons are remorse, responsibility, recognition and remedy.
Remorse: A heartfelt apology comes from the realization of the hurt that you have caused. Saying “I’m sorry“ is not enough. Those are just words. A meaningful apology verbalizes the understanding of the pain that you have caused and shows regret for the actions taken.
Responsibility: Taking responsibility is showing ownership of your actions as well as their impact, even if the pain caused was unintentional. When you take responsibility, you let the other person know that you understand the gravity of the situation you have caused and recognize what you have done wrong.
Recognition:It's important to provide a forum to talk through what happened and process everyone’s feelings. When people know that their pain has been heard, it helps them heal.
Remedy: The person making amends must repair the damage that has been caused and take action to avoid repeating the bad behavior. Having a plan of action that addresses the issues that caused the person to behave badly is good start. Sometimes that can mean ditching social media, switching jobs, attending therapy, or going to rehab.