Break ups, they suck. Yesterday we gave you the best song's to listen to after a break up, so today I'm giving you tips on how to get over a break up and get back on your feet! It doesn't matter whether or not you ended it, it's still hard to move on. So keep on reading!
After years of being in back, to back, to back relationships I'm finally taking some time to work on myself. It hasn't been, and won't be, an easy road but I decided to make a list to help me from eating box after box of Oreos and staying in bed until someone forces me to get out.
I spent my night watching How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days and realized I needed to create a guide on how to be myself again!
Today is your last day to lay in bed with cookies, wine, beer, whatever and let it all out. Even if your breakup just happened, you get one day to lay in bed and mope around. We all need a good cry sometimes, and I personally think I need one more day to just let it all out before I promise myself to go back to my normal cryless self, but when I get off work of course.
Remember, you're allowed to think of the good times! Scroll through old pictures, think of old memories and ask yourself where things went wrong or why this is happening to you, whatever. Just make sure you focus on recuperating, too.
Starting today, YOU are the new love of your life! Wipe away that mascara, get out of bed and de-puff those eyes. Seriously, grab a wash cloth and two ice cubes and put them on top of your eyes - it works wonders.
I personally like to make lists, so grab a pen and paper and write the things you love about yourself on the right. On the left, write the things you want to work on. One side will remind you of things that make you special, the other side will remind you of what you want to do to better your future.
Now, get on your phone and erase your texts from your ex. Now, onto photos and videos of your ex too, not only from your phone but social media too. Social media is a knife in the chest that can feel like a personal jab. Sure, this is a lot to do in one day, but days, weeks or months from now you'll be thankful you did.
Everyday from here on out, make an effort to do things you love! Have your favorite meal, wear your favorite clothing, watch your favorite movie! If you did anything differently for your ex, do it for you now! So, put away those sweats and dress in the clothing you love. Unless you're like me and just throw on a dress and ditch most of your normal makeup routine, one piece of clothing is easier for me to decide on when I'm feeling down. Personally, when I look my best, I feel my best. I promised myself that starting now I will start to look and dress the part of the strong, beautiful woman I know I am. So, play the part and be the part.
It's time. See your friends, rekindle your friendships, go to happy hour with the girls. Lucky for me it's almost the weekend so day four might come early!
By this day, you are going to need some girl time. You need to laugh again, be around people you love again and be happy. But seriously try to stay away from gossip about your ex, that's not a good way to have fun!
Also, your friends are there to help you, lift you up and be a shoulder to lean on.
If you're like me, you get comfortable with who you're dating and forget about the gym. Between my busy schedule, and relationship, my fitness routine fell behind.
So, guess what? Now that you're back on the market you should rekindle the love of your health and body. Not only will this help you look better, it will help you feel better. Make yourself a gym schedule, write down your goals and vow to not give up on them! The last two days I went on runs around my neighborhood, I haven't done that in years!
Today let's start to rediscover your old passions. I've honestly forgotten all the things I used to do for fun in my spare time. Kayaking, writing, D.I.Y., and so on. You never know what hobby could turn into a serious part of your life. It will be therapeutic and some beautiful things could emerge.
Go spend time with your family! Remember where you come from and that they will always be there. Your family will help you through your issues, and won't go out of their way to cause you pain. Parents always seem to make things better.
While I'm not at day seven, yet, my mom found me a therapist to talk to, to help with my anxiety. No shame!
Now that it's been over a week and you've pulled yourself together, go out! Get crazy and give your phone to your friends so you don't get drunk and text your ex. In the past I've gone out right after breakups and it always resulted in some texts I regretted in the morning. You'll be in a better mindset after being with your family, friends and working on your health.
Remind yourself that one day you will be 'happy' again and that there was a reason behind this breakup, whether it was your decision or not. For me, I like to sit on my dock to clear my mind so that's likely what I will do on this day. Think about your good qualities, what you have to offer in relationships and why you're a good person. Realize how far you've come in the last nine days and don't blame yourself anymore. Not to be cliche but, everything happens for a reason.
It's day 10! You're magically over it! Kidding, of course that would be impossible. But hopefully you're in a much better state of mind and place in life. The past ten days will have helped you get back on your feet, be you again and help you regain strength and confidence. This is the day of acceptance and resilience. It's not going to hold you down forever and the wounds will heal. Stay productive and make progress in life, friendships, career, etc. Being alone and finding yourself again will help you heal your broken heart. Just keep on pushing forward!
There really is no formula to get over someone, and no specific time that it will take, regardless of what you've heard. No one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, but you grow from them. Keep focusing on yourself, have fun and take one day at a time.
Don't just jump into another relationship right away. Stay away from dating apps and take some time to find out what YOU want!
When all else fails, there is always music and dogs.